Grace full mama

I have been hearing so much about the #tradwife trend recently. It peaked my attention, as a Christian stay at home mom and wife. Now, as with any trend, there are some pitfalls in this movement. But there is real beauty to it too, and it is riling up the enemy in a big way.

Let’s start with the pitfalls. Just because something is traditional, doesn’t always mean that it is biblical or Godly.Some of the more “trendy” traditional wives on social media are very focused on their husbands… which is good to a point. The thing is, God has to come first, before our husbands, every single time. This is the crux of Godly womanhood and is absolutely non negotiable if you want to grow and flourish.

“As Jesus and his disciples continued on their journey, they came to a village where a woman welcomed Jesus into her home. Her name was Martha and she had a sister named Mary. Mary sat down attentively before the Master, absorbing every revelation he shared. But Martha became exasperated with finishing the numerous household chores in preparation for her guests, so she interrupted Jesus and said “Lord, don’t you think it’s unfair that my sister left me to do all the work by myself? You should tell her to get up and help me.” The Lord answered her, “Martha, my beloved Martha. Why are you upset and troubled, pulled away by all these many distractions? Mary has discovered the one thing most important by choosing to sit at my feet. She is undistracted, and I won’t take this privilege from her. ” Luke 10:38-42 TPT

You see, our husbands and children can be a distraction too, if we let them. We need to be more focused on being Godly wives than “traditional wives,” and that starts with taking time to sit at the feet of Jesus and making that the highest priority in our lives in a very real way. We are God’s girls, and our home is the mission field. We are never to make our husbands an idol in our lives and thus deprive him of the warrior that was made to fight for him.

So, with this little disclaimer out of the way… women coming back to being women is a beautiful thing. Truly. It is a slap in the face of feminism, and they are feeling it and reeling. Women who have big families and stay home serving their families have been accused by the feminist movement of supporting “toxic masculinity” and even perpetrating “white supremacy” because we are having white babies. The enemy is all riled up like a wasp in a pop can; and that means we are doing something right.

It has been a sneaky ploy of the enemy to destroy our identity in Christ since God created Adam and Eve, but his most recent strategy, I believe, started with feminism. Destroy a woman’s worth in the home. Make her believe she only has worth if she is competing with men, slaughtering everything inside her that is feminine. Feminism led to abortion… just think about that. Think about how backwards it is. That we have come to the place where “women’s rights” have become about having the right to kill the child that every natural instinct she has tells her to protect. This is freedom? I think not. The enemy is a liar. “Women’s rights” have led to “gay rights,” “trans rights,” and the absolute mutilation of children who are at the most impressionable time in their lives. It’s a full scale attack on humanity and the beauty of the family. It’s nuclear war directed at the heart of who we are in Christ. It is evil, and I will not mince words about that.

Understand that I do not believe that trans people are evil. God. Loves. Everybody. He is just so amazing. Just like I look at my one year old who decided that it was a good idea to play in fresh dog vomit, and I love him as much as any other time, God loves his people; but just as I am going to give my baby a good bath with a lot of soap, he wants to wash the evil off of the people whom he loves.

So, friends, if traditional wife and motherhood (something so beautiful and pure that it should never be thought of as remotely offensive) stands in the face of the worldwide plot that Satan is acting out, I am soooo here for it. Let’s be biblical wives, steering our ships and raising our children as an army who will stand against the wiles of the enemy who hates them.

“Likewise with the female elders, lead them into lives free from gossip and drunkeness and to be teachers of beautiful things. This will enable them to teach the younger women to love their husbands, to love their children, and to be self controlled and pure, taking care of their household and being devoted to their husbands. By doing these things the word of God will not be discredited. Titus 2:3-5 TPT

“And out of reverence for Christ be supportive of each other in love. For wives, this means being devoted to your husbands like you are tenderly devoted to our Lord, for the husband provides leadership for the wife, just as Christ provides leadership for his church, as the Savior and Reviver of the body. In the same way the church is devoted to Christ, let wives be devoted to their husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:21-24 TPT

Obviously… feminism isn’t biblical. I’ll wager it isn’t truly fulfilling, either. There is no boss or friend who is going to look at you the way your baby does. When one works outside the home, they leave their legacy at the office when they go home for the day. A mother’s legacy outlives her. It is the most important, fulfilling, beautiful job in the world.

So, ladies, sit at the feet of Jesus. Know him, emulate him, and get your marching orders from him. And then go forward as women of God and serve your family, devote yourselves to your husbands, and love and train your children in the ways of the Lord. It is time we build an army of women who stand against the madness, for what and who we were intended to be.